I used to think I was tough, but then I realized I wasn’t. I was fragile and I wore thick fucking armor. And I hurt people so they couldn’t hurt me. And I thought that was what being tough was, but it isn’t.

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Tim Howard still embraces his Tourette's syndrome, works to dispel ignorance


US goalkeeper Tim Howard, who had a record-setting World Cup game today (despite the unfortunate 2-1 loss to Belgium), has been dealing with Tourette’s syndrome and OCD issues since childhood. This article and accompanying video details Howard’s struggles and his continuing efforts to inspire others and dispel the myths and ignorance around TS and associated disorders:

"The United States goalkeeper in his third World Cup doesn’t mind being asked about Tourette’s syndrome, a neurological disorder he has suffered from since childhood.

In fact, despite it being cruelly used to single him out early in his career he welcomes the inquiry and embraces the condition, proud of having controlled it and determined to raise awareness for the benefit of others afflicted.

He might be the most ideal ambassador for a cause that you can imagine, living proof that those with Tourette’s are normal people with the potential to be exceptional. And, with a brush of humor, he dispels the myth that it is simply a condition that makes you swear a lot.

"You know, we don’t all curse," smiled Howard, in an exclusive interview with Yahoo Sports. "I do on the field, unfortunately, to get my point across, but it’s not because of my condition.

"It’s defined as involuntary motor tics, twitches if you like. Some of it is blinking, clearing my throat, different muscle tensing of different body parts. Unfortunately it’s misconstrued and portrayed in a comical way, particularly in Hollywood and movies and stuff." "

Self-deprecation is often our way of apologizing in advance. If we make sure that everyone else knows that WE know that there is something wrong with us, so we don’t have to worry about what they think of us. We’ve already told them what to think of us.

We warn people so they aren’t disappointed. We apologize for who and what we are. Obviously nobody would like us if they discovered the ugly things about us on their own, so we make sure they know ahead of time. That way we don’t get attached only to have them leave us…

Because we are ashamed of who we are, we assume others will feel the same way, so we apologize again and again.

Why Your Apology Isn’t Going To Cut It by Kelly Boaz.

This hit a chord with me.

(via honeybeeshepherd)